You feel as though your wife is paranoid, do not you? It's hard not to give the fact that she's constantly accusing you of cheating on her. You have virtually no idea why she's so suspicious and even though you try hard to calm her fears because they're baseless, she still goes on and on about how she's certain you're not true to her. It's incredibly frustrating to be in your position because you are forced to prove your innocence on a daily basis. Why is it that some women become so convinced that their husband is cheating, even when he's not? Is there a way you can stop her from worrying so you two can just focus on how fulfilling and devoted your marriage really is?
Before I delve further into how you can calm her suspicions, I'd like to address a possibility that you may never have entertained. Human psychology can be a very puzzling thing and there are often hidden clues in a person's actions that we do not ever recognize. Such is the case with a wife who accuses her husband of cheating even though he is completely and utterly devoted to her. Sometimes, when a person is being unfaithful, they will take to accusing their spouse of similar behavior. There are actually a couple of reasons why this happens.
First, and foremost, if a wife is indeed being unfaithful she is conscious of having to cover up her infidelity. To that extent she's going to be more aware when something looks not quite right with her husband. For instance, if you hide your cell phone away in your pocket when you're home, she may notice that your behavior mirrors her own so she's going to jump to the conclusion that you are also cheating. The other reason a wife will sometimes accuse her husband husband of adultery, when in fact she's guilty of it, is just that. Her guilty is so much that she needs to find a way to displace it so she directs her towards her husband so as to take the bulk of the burden off herself.
Please note that this is not always the case when a wife has become very accusatory. In most cases, it has nothing to do with the wife's own devotion to the marriage, and it's more much a self esteem related issue.
Your wife may be overly suspicious of your connections with other women because she is not happy with who she is. This can occur after a woman has been married for a time and her husband just does not put in the same effort to make her happy as he once did. It also tends to be a problem for women who are not happy with themselves in a physical sense. If your wife looks in the mirror and does not find her own body appealing, she's going to assume you feel much the same way about it.
Calming these fears can be done but it does take time and patience. You must devote yourself to helping your wife embrace who she is, exactly as she is now. That means making more complimentary comments about how much you love and desire her. It means encouraging her to chase her own dreams and to do the things she finds fulfilling. You have to support your wife in every way imaginable. By doing this you'll be showing her that you believe in her which in turn, will help her believe in herself more.
It's essential that you tell your wife how much you adore her on a regular basis. We all sometimes neglect our spouse, not out of intention, but purely out of circumstance. If your life has become very busy and you do not spend as much time with your wife as you once did, change that now. Create more opportunities for the two of you to be together. Talk with her more, and more importantly, listen to her more. If she feels you are focused solely on her, she's going to let go of any suspensions she may have had about you being involved with another woman.
It's also good to allow your wife unlimited access to your life and everything that entails. Leave your cell phone in full view, even when you're out of the room. Do not rush to answer calls in private. Also, invite her to visit you at your office whenever she wishes. If you show her you have nothing to hide, she'll come to believe it.